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Everything We Know About Bobby Flay's Love Life

The notorious playboy has been married — and divorced — three times.

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After getting to know the star through his cookbooks and Food Network shows, one of the most common questions we see from readers is: Who's he dating? Followed by, is he married? Here are the answers you've been desperately seeking.

1

Bobby Flay got married when he was 26.

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Flay and Debra Ponzek — a fellow chef and Flay's first wife — met at a Meals-On-Wheels charity event. They exchanged vows on May 11, 1991, less than a year later, at the classic NYC haunt, The Rainbow Room.

2

The couple competed for a very big award.

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A James Beard Award is one of the greatest achievements for a chef, and in 1992, both Flay and Ponzek were nominated for Rising Star Chef. Flay tried to drop out, but the foundation wouldn't let him, and Ponzek ended up winning. The next year, Flay was nominated again — and Ponzek presented him the award when he won.

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3

Flay and Ponzek split up.

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The pair divorced in 1993, after two years of marriage.

4

Flay found love on a TV show.

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Flay met Kate Connelly in January 1994, when he appeared on her Food Network talk show. They married on October 1, 1995. According to the New York Times, the officiant started the wedding with, "This will be short and sweet, unlike their courtship, which was short and hot."

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5

They had a daughter named Sophie.

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Connelly had a son from a previous marriage, but together, she and Flay had a daughter, Sophie. She was born on April 16, 1996.

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Flay got divorced for the second time.

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He and Connelly separated in 1998, and they got divorced shortly thereafter.

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Flay was set up on a blind date with actress Stephanie March.

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You might recognize her: March has been a series regular on Law and Order: SVU from 2000 to 2012. Just as her TV career was taking off, she and Flay met. Their first date was at Nobu in New York City, and March told CNN, "I know it's a cliché, but I remember thinking, oh my gosh, this is the rest of my life."

8

Flay and March married.

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Flay proposed at the Rockefeller Center ice rink in 2003, and he and March were married on February 20, 2005.

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9

News of a rough patch came out.

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Flay has been accused of missing out on some pretty important moments. When March's appendix burst, Flay was MIA, and he allegedly skipped out on their 10th anniversary, according to The Daily Beast.

10

Divorce No. 3 happened.

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Rumors swirled that March kicked Flay out of the house. Three weeks later, he filed for divorce in March 2015.

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11

One alleged affair broke them.

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March's friend blames Flay's alleged three-year affair with Elyse Tirrell, one of his assistants, was the breaking point. Flay's reps responded by saying, "We will continue to refrain from responding to the continued efforts by certain parties to spread rumors and innuendo."

12

Flay's romantically linked to costar Giada De Laurentiis

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Flay's chemistry with his Next Food Network Star cohost led people to speculate he was dating the chef, but both stars denied those rumors. De Laurentiis has also been linked to former Today show anchor Matt Lauer, prompting her to set the record straight on both fronts: "My long-time friendships with my co-workers Matt Lauer and Bobby Flay are exactly that — long-time friendships."

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13

Things got really messy, really fast.

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While settling, March called her prenup into question, claiming she played an integral part in the growth of Flay's restaurants and he owed her more of his earnings. The divorce was finalized in July, nearly five months after the pair's separation.

14

Flay met Helene Yorke at a Knicks game.

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The two were introduced courtside. Flay has since had the actress on his show, Beat Bobby Flay, and he put it like this: "So I'm going to let you in on a little secret," he said. "Last season, I went to a Knicks game, and I met Helene. Now we kind of date."

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15

Flay had a PDA-filled night with his new girlfriend.

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He and Yorke were snapped hugging and laughing in the streets of New York in March of 2016. The two continued to date, and Yorke even started (and recently deleted) an Instagram account dedicated to her culinary conquests with Flay called @thehungriestgirlfriend.

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Flay and Yorke just passed the two-year mark.

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Both Flay and Yorke took to Instagram for their first anniversary, February 11, 2017 (you can see his virtual PDA here and hers here), but they remained mum this year.

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